I think Wayne Dyer is on to something very important here. Maybe every now and again it would be worth asking someone else what they see? And then try looking at things from a different perspective.
Do you agree?
After Florence we headed off into the Tuscan countryside for some chill out time in a beautiful old converted monastery. I had read about Castel Monastero in several ‘luxury spa’ and ‘best hotels’ books – the name kept popping up again and again so we decided to try it out. The place was perfect for us after the manic few weeks that precede a wedding. It was so peaceful and relaxed, giving us plenty of time to reflect on the brilliant time we had at our wedding, as well as talk about the kind of marriage and life we want to share in the years ahead.
We borrowed the hotel’s bikes and cycled past the olive groves surrounding the estate, soaked in the spa (which we had completely to ourselves, complete with strange dead sea salt bath) and then came back to the stunning hotel bar for very welcome cocktails!
One of my favourite parts of this section of our honeymoon was the stunning Gordon Ramsay restaurant in the basement of the hotel. ‘Cantina’ is built inside a vaulted wine cellar, reached down a narrow set of uneven stone steps lit only with candles.
These photos don’t really do the place justice. It was so atmospheric and the food was divine, paired with delicious wines from the hotel’s own vineyard. They happily made things to order if what you fancied wasn’t on the menu, and nothing was rushed. We ended up eating here three times!
We discovered the best creme brulee in the world…
While at Castel Monastero we also hired a driver and went on a long tour of the local vineyards. Such fun! More on that in my next honeymoon post…
Every day of our honeymoon felt like a precious gift of time to relax, soak up the beauty of the Italian countryside, and spend time together. We are grateful to our families and wedding guests who contributed to our honeymoon as our wedding present. The gift of travel was the perfect gift for us.
You can read my other honeymoon posts here: (1) Florence / (2) Castel Monastero / (3) Winetasting in Tuscany / (4) Borgo Santo Pietro / (5) Pasta masterclass / (6) Pisa and home
Huge thanks to everyone who entered the giveaway to win a place on Jennifer Lee’s Right Brain Entrepreneur Mentorship Program worth nearly $1000. The winner is…
Congratulations Theresa! We hope the programme will be a huge boost to you as you grow your children’s book illustration business. Be sure to let us know how you get on!
To everyone who didn’t win – stay tuned for more gievaways here in the coming weeks, and keep taking those steps towards doing what you love!
I appreciate that the majority of you who read this blog are female. I just hope by sharing a few thoughts and experiences with you I can provide a little insight to the male perspective. This may surprise you but we are not always the most vocal or the best at communicating. That hasn’t been our role! But trust me, we certainly have our own personal insecurities and issues. I am sure this is true of the men in your life as well.
Change! This month’s theme is certainly a very fitting topic for me to begin my blog adventure with you. I guess that this blog is a change in itself.
To ‘love to change’ though is certainly a strange concept at the off-set, as most changes are inevitably difficult at first. That said just because it is difficult does not mean that we should not embrace change. We all just need to find the courage to do so.
“Change will never happen when people lack the ability and courage to see themselves for who they are.” – Bryant H. McGill
I have made some huge decisions in the past two years. All of which have dictated big changes in my life. Basically because it needed to change and change it certainly has!
I must stress that there was nothing particularly wrong with my life before. In fact if I’m honest my life has been pretty good. I have great family and friends, I have been lucky in health (touch wood) and six years ago my greatest inspiration walked into my life (my now wife – more on that later in the month). I found myself in a good job with plenty of career opportunities.
My moment of epiphany occurred around two years ago. It was in the winter during an early drive to work through the rain and sleet that I questioned…. What am I doing? Why am I doing this? Where am I going?
Answering these questions had been easy at one time. I was going to work like most people to primarily earn some money. These questions became much more difficult to answer once my girlfriend (now wife) started her company ‘Do What You Love’.
The concept was brilliant and the scope almost limitless. Who wouldn’t want to do what they love? But while I supported her endeavours, the cynical male in me was thinking “But very few people, especially guys with families to feed, are that lucky!”
Throughout the months prior to my a-ha moment I witnessed how many people were actually changing their lives in positive ways directly because of ‘Do What You Love’. I was becoming one big contradiction. I was sat across the table from the person helping so many people change their lives yet I was too stubborn to accept the reality of my own life. I was not doing what I loved, in fact far from it! As the months went by I was even beginning to hate what I did.
“If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading” – Lao Tzu
Did I really want another 30 years of feeling like this? No.
So what was I going to do about it?
I could moan about it and do nothing, which at best is a momentary escape or I could put my male cynicism aside and accept that I needed to make changes. Ultimately who else other than me is in charge of my life?
“There are two primary choices in life: To accept conditions as they exist, or accept responsibility for changing them.” – Dennis Waitley
I decided to take a six month sabbatical and go and live in Kyoto, Japan with Beth, both for a change of scene and to find some time to think. A little drastic I admit. The truth is the destination could really have been anywhere. The point was I needed time away from the daily grind to give myself an opportunity to take charge of my life.
“It is never too late to be what you might have been” – Mahatma Gandhi
Later this month I will share what happened to my outlook whilst taking that all important time out. For now I’d like to know what changes do you know deep down you need to make? Or what changes have you made recently – and how are things different now?
And if there are any men in your life in a similar situation to me, try to encourage them to talk about it or at least think about it. Please don’t be surprised if it is a difficult subject for them to talk about. Maybe they just need to take some time for themselves to reassess. Just because we never raise the topic doesn’t mean we aren’t thinking about it.
Until next time…
Mr K
Today I am thrilled to share this interview with Jennifer Lee, author of The Right Brain Business Plan, and a successful businesswoman in her own right who has helped hundreds of creative entrepreneurs grow their businesses through her coaching, mentoring and other programmes. I first met Jennifer at the Squam retreat back in 2011, and always love talking to her. She brings a really fresh, and very real view to any conversation, and has brilliantly translated everything she learned from more than a decade in corporate America, to help ‘solopreneurs’ find their way. This special video edition of the Do What You Love interview focuses on change within business and within the lives of people who run businesses. I hope you find it as interesting as I did! – Beth
Just click below to watch (15 minutes). If you cannot view the video below, please click on this link to view it on Vimeo.com.
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Which part of this interview resonated most with you? What was helpful? We’d love to know – please share in the comments below.
And don’t miss out on our amazing giveaway with Jenn – see below. (PLEASE NOTE THIS GIVEAWAY HAS NOW CLOSED)
THE PRIZE: The Right-Brain Entrepreneur Mentorship Program, which starts on June 10th, is an intensive 8-month programme led by The Right-Brain Business Plan bestselling author Jennifer Lee. You have a chance to win a seat at the Cohort Circle level (valued at $997) where you’ll learn how to develop new moola making methods, package your gifts and craft your offers, build your list so you can authentically attract and connect with your right peeps, create a successful plan to launch your offers, and more through right-brain interactive video chats, group coaching calls, and a private Facebook group. Any questions? Check out the programme’s FAQ here (includes dates for calls).
Welcome to ‘Places and Spaces’, our new Wednesday column where we share places we go to think, get inspired, or come alive. The environment around us has such a bearing on how we feel, and sometimes a change of scene can make a world of difference to your perspective, thought process, or decisions.
Today I want to share somewhere I discovered recently when stepping out of the office, hopping on a train and going to London for the day. I was there researching a super-secret new project with Rachael Taylor, and we decided to walk between tube stations taking a detour by a canal. And look what we discovered – a travelling cafe and bookshop, in two separate barges moored alongside each other! It didn’t take much to persuade us to stop and have our meeting with a slice of cake and a steaming cup of tea, sat inside the floating cafe.
When we found the boats they were near Angel Tube but they never stay in one place for more than a week. Ahh life on a canal boat…
‘Word on the Water’ canal boat bookshop
Canal boat cafe
Who says you have to be stuck in a boring office to get productive work done?
Where is the most inspiring place you have ever had a meeting?
It may seem very obvious, right? But how many of us can honestly say that where we are heading is where we hope to end up?
When was the last time you really thought about the path you find yourself on and where is it going to take you?
And is it time to change that path?
As the grey skies fold back to reveal a swathe of blue, and as the sun comes out and the coats come off, it feels like change is in the air. And there is certainly a lot of change going on around here at DWYL HQ.
We are putting the final touches to our brand new website (which will launch this month and we hope you will love). With that will come a new kind of blogging from us, with a different theme for each month to explore all the different aspects of doing what you love.
We are starting this today, June 1, with the first theme ‘Love change’. Change is fundamental to shifting from a life doing what you don’t love, to doing what you do love. Over the coming month we will share a series of interviews with people who have undergone major changes in their life (often involving bravery, excitement, and no small measure of fear), along with our own thoughts on how change has and continues to be a major part of our lives.
Fittingly, this month we are preparing for a major personal change, packing up our home in the north of England to go and live by the sea! We have spent many holidays by the ocean, or by other kinds of water, and every time we are near it we just feel happy. I grew up on the south coast of England, and it is time to return, and start to live in the environment which makes us happiest.
Brighton here we come!
This is yet another major change after several big ones these past couple of months – from getting married to my new husband then quitting his career of 12 years and starting to work together here at Do What You Love. After two months of it we have started to find our own work rhythm, and I know for sure both those changes were very good decisions. The best in fact!
Through this month’s posts we will be exploring the things that push us to change, the things that inspire us to change, and the things that hold us back from changing. We hope that along the way you will share your stories of change too.
And we are excited to kick of this brand new blog series with a massive giveaway from Jennifer Lee of Artizen Coaching, someone who has experienced significant change in their own life, and now helps others make major changes in their creative businesses – see below for details, and get involved! (THIS GIVEAWAY IS NOW CLOSED. THANK YOU TO ALL WHO ENTERED.)
THE PRIZE: The Right-Brain Entrepreneur Mentorship Program, which starts on June 10th, is an intensive 8-month programme led by The Right-Brain Business Plan bestselling author Jennifer Lee. You have a chance to win a seat at the Cohort Circle level (valued at $997) where you’ll learn how to develop new moola making methods, package your gifts and craft your offers, build your list so you can authentically attract and connect with your right peeps, create a successful plan to launch your offers, and more through right-brain interactive video chats, group coaching calls, and a private Facebook group. Any questions? Check out the programme’s FAQ here (includes dates for calls).
IS THIS FOR YOU? The mentorship program is for you if you’re a Right-Brain Entrepreneur yearning to finally take your creative business to the next level but are unsure what steps to take next because the left-brain details overwhelm you. Or you’ve been at your work for awhile but are tired of struggling to make a living doing what you love. You can find out more here.
HOW TO ENTER: Check out The Right-Brain Entrepreneur Mentorship Program here and think carefully about how this could benefit you and your business. Come back and leave a comment below this post explaining where you are on your enterprise journey, and why this programme is exactly what you need right now. Please include your full name, country and a link to your business website/blog if possible.
DEADLINE: This giveaway will close on Friday June 7, 2013 at 9am EST / 2pm GMT. Any comments left after that time will not be counted. THIS GIVEAWAY IS NOW CLOSED. THANK YOU TO ALL WHO ENTERED.
THE SMALL PRINT: This giveaway is open to anyone over the age of 18 from any country, and entry is free of charge. One winner will be chosen from the comments left below this post by the deadline. Do What You Love’s decision is final and no correspondence will be entered into. There is no cash alternative. The winner will be requested to write a blog post for the Do What You Love blog once the mentoring programme has finished, to explain the impact it had on them. By entering this giveaway you give permission for your name and email address to be added to the Do What You Love mailing list. We will not pass your details on to third parties, and you can unsubscribe at any time.
If you think this is for you please go for it! Someone has to win… it might just be you. And if anyone you know might benefit from this amazing prize please share this with them.
Pop back on Thursday for a special Do What You Love interview with Jennifer Lee, the mastermind behind this mentorship programme!
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Today’s rather unusual Do What You Love interview is with Cat Mills, a film-maker and writer. Cat is naturally drawn to the bizarre and seeks out the unconventional from every corner, whether that is attending gathering of UFO conspiracy theorists or battling it out tooth and nail at La Tomatina, the world’s largest food fight. This is what led her to start her web series, Wicked and Weird Around the World. In the series Cat travels around the globe in search of some of the strangest festivals, competitions and celebrations known to man.
1. How are you leading a life ‘doing what you love’?
I’ve always been fascinated by subcultures, festivals and everything that is different. With this project I get to travel, explore, learn and express – and I couldn’t ask for anything more. I’m also getting back to my filmmaking roots, which I had somehow misplaced along the way. It feels good to be creative.
2. What did you do before this?
Prior to Wicked and Weird, I worked for an international film sales company in London for 4 years where I worked in the office and travelled to the Cannes and Berlin Film Festivals. Before that I worked in Vancouver in film production under a national mentorship program with the CFTPA (Canadian Film and Television Producers Association, now known as the CMPA).
3. What was you a-ha moment that pushed you to change / realise your passion in life?
My epiphany was a long time coming. It hit critical levels when my old company was in the process of being bought out. It left me uncertain of my future and forced me to ask myself what it was that I really wanted to do. I had enjoyed film sales, but it wasn’t my passion. Ironically, the idea for the project came from a job application. In it you had to pitch a TV show idea, so I pitched a series on weird festivals. I didn’t get the job, but it did inspire this idea, which grew on me more and more until I was in love with it. I quit my job in August 2012 and have been busy working on Wicked and Weird Around the World ever since.
4. How did you make it happen?
My partner received a job offer in Malta around the same time that I was considering leaving my job. When we looked into it, we discovered that the rent was far cheaper in Malta than it was in London, which would make it easier financially as I worked to launch the project. I also made sure to tell everyone what I was doing so that I couldn’t chicken out of it. You need support to pursue your dreams and I’m very fortune to have some incredible friends, and my partner, at my side. The important thing is to keep going and not to stop, despite your inner critic.
5. What has been your biggest challenge and how did you overcome it?
The biggest challenge for me as always been deciding what I want to do and then going out and doing it. Achieving things, once you set your mind to it, is not nearly as challenging as that first step. It’s not an easy question, but taking the time to learn about yourself and what makes you happy is the most important thing you can do and giving yourself permission to do it is incredibly important. Making that initial leap of faith and going for it was my biggest challenge.
6. Who is your role model and why?
My family members are my role models; they’ve all shown such strength and diversity in their talents, passions and abilities. It is probably my father who has inspired me the most in regard to this project. I remember my aunt telling me the story of how, when he was in his 20’s, he managed to convince his brother, sister in law and nieces and nephew to all venture out to a Shakespearean Night at the local restaurant, saying simply “We have to do this”. Everyone made the crappiest makeshift costumes they could find with barbeque skewers as swords and headed out, only to find that half the people weren’t dressed up and the other half were in proper Shakespearean outfits. Regardless, out of everyone at the restaurant they had the most fun. I saw the same adventurous spirit in my sister when she convinced me to go to the Burial of the Sardine while we were in Spain. It’s that spirit that keeps me doing it.
7. What is the best advice you have received?
A friend once told me to always trust your gut. Your heart will deceive you. Your brain will try to justify it. But your gut always knows what the score is. She was right. It’s your intuition. It’s advice that I have applied to both my personal and professional life; keeping me safe and moving in the right direction.
8. What keeps you awake at night?
Our kitten. He keeps attacking my feet.
9. And what gets you up in the morning?
The desire to keep moving and get through my agenda. And that first pot of tea…it keeps me going! Finding these festivals is a bit like a drug. There isn’t enough time in the day to get it all done!
10. What is the big dream for your business?
The big dream is to reach a wide international audience and get the whole series funded, possibly for television. I’m receiving a great deal of support from festival organisers and tourist boards, which is really encouraging. I’d also like to see more people attending these festivals and doing something a bit off colour.
[All images courtesy of Cat Mills.]
To find out more about Cat connect on Facebook, twitter and Pinterest.
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