You will never make the memorable discoveries unless you are will to stick your neck out from time to time. Raise your head above the parapet and see what is going on outside of your comfort zone.
Why are we reluctant to step out from the crowd?
Nihon to Nihongo (On Japan and the Japanese language)
On arriving in Japan our first journey was to travel several hundred miles north from Tokyo on the overnight bus to Yamagata. My first discovery was that I was no longer a crazy student prepared to rough it to save a few quid, and the cheap option of the overnight bus was not proving a good decision! They are not designed for men in their 30s over 6 foot tall.
Yamagata is a prefecture located in the northerly Tōhoku region on Honshu Island. It borders the Miyagi region, which suffered a horrendous ordeal during the 2011 Asian Tsunami.
We arrived around 6am to be met by freezing temperatures and about a foot of snow. Had we packed right? My flip-flops and shorts were not providing much comfort at this point. Luckily we were welcomed in Yamagata by old friends, who quickly made us feel at home.
The reason we had journeyed North to Yamagata was to meet Kyoko and Adachi-san. They had been a couple that Beth had spent a year living with when she worked in Japan. (If she ever decides to write a book it will certainly blow your mind). Life’s accidental twists and turns can be both so brutal and beautiful. They are very close to this day more than 13 years later.
I remember Adachi-san telling me that his favourite part of the day was returning from work, opening a can of lager and watching the football. He was an avid Yamagata Montedio (J2 team) fan. I was discovering that life really wasn’t much different on the other side of the world!
For me, most importantly they were Beth’s friends, great hosts and I could not have asked for a better start to my new adventure. Oh, and they spoke good eigo (English) as well, which helped. Today I am honoured to call them my friends too.
But then things started to get a whole lot trickier when we left the comfort of their home and headed out into the big wide world in Kyoto…
….Arriving in Kyoto
“The beginning of knowledge is the discovery of something we do not understand.” – Frank Herbert
For those of you who have never been to Japan, I cannot recommend a more beautiful or diverse place. It is a wonderful experience. However, it isn’t without its fear factor, mainly the language. I was not expecting the impact being essentially illiterate would have on me.
I am ashamed to say that in the first couple of weeks in Kyoto I wanted to find the quickest exit out (but couldn’t read the signs…) I was completely overwhelmed by road signs, menus, instructions and advice in a language so different to our Roman alphabet that it could be left by an alien race.
I could not believe how dependent I became on Beth. A new start was all well and good but I felt like a child again, unable to fend for myself, and I did not like it. I could not wait for school to begin so I could start to get to grips with the language.
We arrived in Kyoto and settled into our new apartment quickly. It didn’t take long to furnish our 12 square metres. A small rice cooker, two bowls and some chopsticks, done!
I had two weeks to get accustomed to my new surroundings before school was to start. Right then. What was I going to do now I have all this free time? I sat for minutes in front of Google thinking what should I type in and then I suddenly realized that I should get up and go outside! Why did I think I was going to find my answers generated by a search engine? What was I thinking? I don’t even like computers that much.
I soon discovered all the simple pleasures that Kyoto had to offer and there were plenty. Bike riding through the temples (in fact cycling anywhere), exploring weird and wonderful places, exercising by the river, reading, cafes and restaurants, onigiris (rice balls stuffed with things like tuna and wrapped in seaweed), Starbuck’s caramel frappucinos (a new one for me) and most importantly loads of free time!
“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.” – Marcel Proust
One of the beauties of Kyoto was getting under its skin and understanding Japanese life (which can take time). Kyoto was a maze of streets consisting of houses, restaurants, shops and cafes.
Peeking behind the norens offers a world of discovery as you find small family businesses tucked away in wooden buildings selling everything from calligraphy brushes to kimonos to pots and pans.
“You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation.” – Plato
One particular Friday afternoon will always stay in my mind. School had just finished, the heavens had opened and the rain was cascading down the busy rooves. I took off my trainers, placed them in my bag and set off home on my bike, barefoot. Within seconds I was soaked. The ride lasted approximately 20 minutes. I loved every single moment of it.
I felt cool, alive, young and free. At the few places along the route where I had to stop for traffic lights, feeling the warm tarmac under my bare feet was very relaxing and such a unique feeling.
We can’t feel like this all the time but we have to give our lives the opportunity to present such experiences. It was Kyoto in all of her majesty. The rain felt purifying as if it was washing away every care and worry I may have had. I spent the whole journey just laughing out loud all on my own. I felt like a ten year old playing outside. Priceless!
When was the last time you discovered your inner child?
Today just do something just for fun. You might enjoy it, and perhaps find out something new about yourself!
Until next time…
Mr K
There is nothing like a bit of travel to shake it all up, blow out the cobwebs and reinspire you. Sometimes – even when you are doing what you love – you get caught up in the details of making things happen, and the days can sometimes start to merge into one another. Heading out to discover news things, people, places, food and adventures, with your phone off and your exploring hat on can be brilliant.
It was my fourth trip to Paris but the first time I have actually seen the Eiffel Tower up close – wow, what a triumph of engineering. It is so strong but beautiful
And so to Paris… we just spent a long weekend in the French capital – feel so fortunate that is is just over an hour away by plane – and after four days of walking, croissants, practicing bad French and chats in romantic cafes we feel refreshed and ready to roll! I thought you’d like to see a few pics from the windy lanes and dreamy architecture we discovered along the way…
Doesn’t this guy look like he is about to burst into song?!
The most enormous millefeuille I have ever seen
How about you? Have you taken yourself on a little discovery adventure recently? Where did you go? What did you discover? We’d love to hear about it!
Six years ago, without even knowing it, I was completely lost. My career was going OK, but I had stopped dreaming and I had little to no ambition. I seemed to live only for weekends with the boys and a few holidays dotted throughout the year. Looking back I can see that I had everything the wrong way round.
Then a girl walked into my life and changed everything. Beth was to become my saviour, my purpose and my direction. It sounds dramatic but it is true. She reignited my passion for life. Little did I know it right then, but life was about to get a whole lot more interesting!
“Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore.” – Andre Gide
I have written on this blog before about our sabbatical in Japan last year. The decision to go was certainly one, which became the catalyst for huge change and even greater self-discovery.
We primarily found ourselves in Japan because Beth loves the place, the culture, the language and the people. And she is the most important thing in my life so not to share this passion would have been like not acknowledging a part of her.
My initial motivation for going had been to share in this love, to experience all the things she held close to her heart and hopefully, somewhere along the line, pick up a bit of the lingo. I needed to communicate with her friends better than just politely smiling and nodding my head. And to be honest, I couldn’t wait for six months off work.
But in the end it became something much more significant than that. The extended time away from home and work also became an opportunity to ask myself a lot of questions that I had never dared ask before.
I remember sitting on the banks of the Kamogawa River and taking my notebook out of my very masculine bicycle basket. I opened it up and then just sat there, pencil primed for what seemed like an eternity until I started to write. I think the pause was more to do with being flooded with ideas. It took a while to filter through the waterfall of cascading thoughts and focus on the moment. What was on my mind now? This is what I wrote:
Who am I, Where am I
When I was 12, is this how I imagined it would be at 35?
No, not unless astronauts trained in Kyoto!
I then started to write down as many honest thoughts regarding myself as I could bear to admit:
“Sometimes the best way to figure out who you are is to get to that place where you don’t have to be anything else.” – Unknown
Without doubt I am blessed with great family and friends. But there is more to it than that. I needed to answer the questions…
These are deceptively simple questions and I was really struggling to answer them.
My thoughts went automatically to sport and more specifically football (soccer), but what about ME? How was I going to make myself feel proud?
I decided to look back to my earlier childhood before sport became all encompassing. This took many chats, coffees, beers, runs, bike rides and lots of listening to music. It is amazing what can provoke memories and what you actually forgot you used to do. Isn’t it strange that to move forwards more often than not you have to look backwards?
“You will recognize your own path when you come upon it, because you will suddenly have all the energy and imagination you will ever need.” – Jerry Gillies
I decided to start by getting myself really fit and healthy. This was an aspect of my life that has always been a form of salvation for me. But ever since I turned 30 I had been in denial. My body doesn’t respond and recover as fast as it did in my 20s and I soon realized I needed to sacrifice a little bit more than I used to in this quest. I definitely struggle to enjoy everything around me if I do not feel good in myself. This was actually my first recognition of who I am as an individual. And getting fit again was an important first step on the road to doing what I love.
How about you? Who are you? Where you thought you would be? Have you thought about this lately? It would be great to hear about your journey too.
Until next time…
Mr K
Today’s interview is Mandy Henry, who I first met when she interviewed me for television! That was nearly 10 years ago, back in 2004 when I worked at UNICEF and the Asian Tsunami struck. As a full time presenter at MUTV (Manchester United television), she and her team did a brilliant job helping us create a high profile appeal with the Manchester United first team players to raise emergency funds from the fans.
We have stayed in touch ever since, and some time back Mandy took the Do What You Love e-course at a time when she was getting itchy feet in her job. It was clear that TV presenting is something that Mandy is brilliant at, and loves, but the way the job worked wasn’t working for her.
Today Mandy shares how she made the leap into freelance presenting, to allow her to stay doing what she loves, but in a way which suits her lifestyle, and talks about what she has discovered along the way. – Beth
Dear Orchard House,
It is with a little sadness that I write this goodbye letter, as you have been such a good friend these past three years. You have provided us with a cosy home, spaces to live, work and play, a relaxing sanctuary, walls filled with laughter and three happy Christmases. Today we are moving on to live near the sea and will miss you. If we could put you on the back of a lorry and drive you to Brighton we would, but English houses aren’t built that way…
You look a little empty with all our things removed from every room, but soon you will be filled again with new furniture, new people, new laughter.
Since we bought you we have grown a business, got engaged, married and pregnant, hosted many friends and some fun parties in the garden, made plans, decorated and redecorated, cooked many roast dinners and had many adventures. Thank you for your part in that.
Every home is a piece of our story, and you are no exception. We hope your new residents will be as happy as we have been.
Xx
And the winner of a signed copy of Christina Rosalie’s lovely book ‘A Field Guide To Now: Notes on mindfulness and life in the present tense’ is…
Congratulations Kira! We will be in touch by email! If you missed our interview with Christina you can read it here. Thank you to everyone who entered.
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PS did you hear about our HUGE news? See here – so very happy and excited!
And just when we thought this year couldn’t get any better…
… we discover we are having a baby! Life will never be the same and we couldn’t be happier. This feels like the most important adventure of our lives – 17 weeks and counting. It is hard to put into words what it feels like knowing there is a little person growing and developing in there. We love this little baby so much already!
The baby’s due date is December 11, which means it will be a Christmas baby. Our favourite time of year just got even more special…
This is a completely unknown world to us and we know we have so much to learn.
If you have children how did you feel when you found out? And what is your best advice for nurturing a happy baby? We’d love to know!