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By the book… The Power of Now

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This month we read (and loved!) The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle… by Senior Editor, Rachel Kempton

Do you ever feel like you’re on a hamster wheel running at top speed but not getting anywhere? The last few months have felt a bit like that for me: the constant to-ing and fro-ing between work, family and friends; a diary packed with social commitments and obligations; and a never-ending to-do list — not to mention the incessant pings from my phone — have left me longing for some time out.

A couple of days away, and an eye-opening book later, I’d discovered where I’ve been going wrong. Not only have I been physically busy, my mind has been in overdrive too — constantly racing from one thought to the next instead of being more present.

Eckhart Tolle’s book, The Power of Now, was a timely reminder that the key to experiencing more joy in life lies simply in the here and the now. The insights I’ve gleaned from this book have been swirling about in my consciousness for the last couple of weeks. It has completely changed the way I think, act and feel.

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Here are my top three takeaways:

1. The moment is all I have

The basic principle of the book is that we don’t exist outside the Now and [Tweet “living in the now is the truest path to happiness and enlightenment.”]

At first I found this concept quite tricky to grasp as I’ve always thought of life as a line that takes us from birth to death with the present moment being a single point which moves slowly forward along it. The Power of Now shares the idea that there is no line and no defining past and future points. That the present is all we have. And that the past (which gives us identity) and future (which holds the promise of fulfilment in any form) are mere illusions which we create by imagining them in the present.

And it makes complete sense. Constantly looking ahead to the next big thing — whether it’s an event, a goal, or a dreams of a better future — and trying to control other people, situations and outcomes in the process is both stressful and draining. On the other hand when you can consciously offer no resistance to what is and allow the present moment to be just as it is, good or bad, you feel immense calm and inner peace.

2. I am not my mind

Now I try and see my mind as independent. Yes I see the thoughts racing around in there but the difference is that I know I don’t need to engage with them or react to them. Instead I do my best to stand aside, watch, and laugh at how ridiculous they are! Just knowing that they don’t define who I am or how I live my life feels incredibly liberating.

3. Problems don’t exist

Tolle explains our ‘life situation’ is not our ‘life’. Our ‘life situation’ is stuff we need to resolve, chores to attend to and relationships that need attention. But when we’ve taken care of that, we can come back to our ‘life’, our essence, our true nature and leave behind the deadening nature of ‘time created problems’ which are just a manifestation of an over busy mind.

The fact is that as long as we define ourselves in terms of our pains and problems we will never be free from them. Now I’m taking the view that unless I’m being chased by a bear, or I find myself in another potentially life-threatening situation, I actually don’t have any problems so I may as well stop worrying.

The Power of Now has helped to free me from the mind-numbing thoughts that have make me feel confused, stressed and exhausted. Yes, it takes a great deal of effort to be more consciously aware in every part of your life but the trade-off for feeling lighter and brighter is totally worth it.

Check out this animation by The Journey which explains more about all this…

About the author and the book

Eckhart Tolle wrote The Power of Now following a cataclysmic spiritual experience that he claims erased his former identity when he was 29. One evening, he was a near-suicidal graduate student, living in a Belsize Park bedsit; by the following morning, he’d been flooded with a sense of “uninterrupted deep peace and bliss” that has never left him since. That morning, he writes, “I walked around the city in utter amazement at the miracle of life on earth, as if I had just been born.” 

Following his epiphany, Tolle has become one of the most successful spiritual author of the modern age, and Oprah Winfrey, whose championing of his books included a 10-week online seminar series watched by 11 million people, has ensured their long-term tenure on bestseller lists on both sides of the Atlantic.

You can order The Power Of Now via Amazon.uk and Amazon.com.

Exciting times!

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Exciting times, exciting times, exciting times…

This is what I constantly seem to be saying to Beth at the moment, in fact I have been saying it for the last few months. There is an energy and a level of optimism in what we are doing at the moment that I don’t think we have experienced for a couple of years in the business. Not to say that it hasn’t been enjoyable, far from it, but we seem to be in a position where the foundations of our plans have been laid and all those hours, days, months and years of hard work are paying dividends.

Why the level of excitement? Well, there are a few reasons. Firstly, Beth is realising her dream of writing a book and is working with her dream publisher to bring ‘Freedom Seeker’ to life and out into the world. Stay tuned for more on that very soon! To watch someone so close to you achieve a lifelong dream is a reminder that life is what we make it. (Beth is looking over my shoulder right now and telling me that ‘Life is what you make it’ was her motto in her school yearbook over two decades ago!)

Secondly, the actual writing of the book has provided a fresh focus for us here at DWYL. The world of publishing is new to us but finding out about it, working with new people and learning new skills has been a very enjoyable learning curve.

Thirdly, it became very apparent that to achieve all our new goals we needed some additional help. So it is with great pleasure that I can introduce our newest team member… Fiona Duffy.

DSC_5819-2Welcome Fiona Duffy – the latest addition to the DWYL family!

We are absolutely over the moon to welcome Fiona into the DWYL family. She brings with her invaluable experience working with The Happy Startup School, an infectious enthusiasm, a huge smile and a refreshing honesty and openness. And she gets it! She really does. She gets what we are trying to do, where we want to be and has so many ideas to help us get there.

I would like to take this opportunity to thank the guys at The Happy Startup School for supporting Fiona’s decision to go to part time so she can spend the rest of the week with us, and embarks on the phase of her career and life. You are going to love her like we do!

Recruiting for your own business is often challenging, because when you have a small team you really have to fit together. But sometimes someone comes along who makes it very easy for you. In this case it was a complete no-brainer. Fiona oozes charm, a zest for life and is a huge force of positive energy. Welcome Fiona – we hope you enjoy your role with us!

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Thought of the moment

We are all works in progress. Beth spotted this written on a window in New York on her travels last week, and tells me she suddenly felt like the pressure was off. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves that we are works-in-progress, that we don’t have to be perfect, and that every day offers an opportunity to learn and grow. So here’s to you being a work-in-progress too!

Until next time,

Mr.K

A Soulful Synchronicity

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“Once upon a time, when women were birds, there was the simple understanding that to sing at dawn and to sing at dusk was to heal the world through joy. The birds still remember what we have forgotten, that the world is meant to be celebrated.” ~ Terry Tempest Williams

Today we meet artist and educator Jennie Oppenheimer, a lady who passionately believes that creativity and play not only illuminate our strengths and originality, but help us to discover our unique purpose and potential. As the founder of SOULIO, a business that delivers fun artful workshops to help people discover their authentic voice and take the risks necessary for growth, Jennie is now doing what she loves, using creativity as a teaching tool for soulful investigation and self-expression. Here she shares how training to become a facilitator for SoulCollage® changed her life and her work.

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Do What You Love interview – Hazel Cushion

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When Hazel Cushion gave birth to triplets in the late 1990s she wondered how there would ever be room for anything else in her life. Back then she’d never have imagined that her babies would become the impetus for her to launch a successful publishing business from her bedroom.

Hazel started Accent Press in 2003 when Julia, Felicity and Richard were just five-years-old. With husband Bob working abroad, Hazel was effectively a single mother who needed to do something for herself, that was family-friendly and that would bring in some cash. So, after completing her MA in Creative Writing at Trinity College, Carmarthen, she decided to become a publisher. “As part of the course I learnt how to put a book together, and I was hooked,” Hazel explains. “I’d never set up a company before, so I asked the Welsh Assembly for business advice and applied for a £5,000 business loan.” 

Hazel decided big names sell so she began by asking well-known authors to donate stories for a book to raise cash for breast cancer – and raise awareness of her new company. The plan worked like a dream and best selling romantic novelist Katie Fford was among those who agreed to donate stories. Next Hazel rang WHSmith and said she had a book coming out to support breast cancer called Sexy Shorts for Christmas and they immediately put it in their top 300. “That was very, very unusual,” Hazel recalls. “I just happened to get the right person on the right day and that was how it all started.”

13 years on and Accent Press is an award-winning independent publisher which employs ten staff and turns over more than £1m. Earlier this year Hazel also opened a vibrant new bookshop, café and wine bar in the heart of Cardiff Bay’s creative quarter. Now Hazel is keen to inspire other mums to find the courage and confidence to go it alone. ~ Rachel

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1. How are you doing what you love?

My work involves making people’s dreams come true by publishing their books – that has to be the best part of my job. I also love the variety – from meeting new people, marketing, creating covers etc. Every day is different and there are always new things to discover and learn.

2. What’s your background? Talk us through your journey to the point of setting up Accent Press…

My previous career involved managing shops on cruise ships, running a charity in Dubai, working in recruitment and having a wine business in the South of France. It was all very varied but it helped me develop a wide range of skills which have been very useful in setting up Accent Press. I think if we harvest our history we can usually find a wealth of experiences that help build our businesses.

3. What was motivating you?

I have always had lots of energy and love learning new things. Initially I was motivated by money – I needed a business I could work around my children but I quickly became addicted to overcoming the challenges and discovering I loved running my own business. It was the freedom to be innovative and try new things unfettered by corporate policy etc. I made loads of mistakes but I view each one as a learning opportunity, not a failure.

4. Once you had your idea, how did you bring it to life? What were the very first steps you took?

I started the company in my front bedroom but quickly rented a tiny office in an industrial unit and hired my first staff member. This was key to our rapid growth – she was a very bright young lady and came up with lots of good ideas. She learned quickly how to handle the production side of the business and freed me up to sell and network. I joined the Independent Publishers Guild and found this an amazing help and resource.

5. When you started your business your triplets were still young and your husband was working abroad. How did you find the time?

Certainly in the early days it was always a juggling act but that is why my first employee was so important. She could man the office while I took the kids to school and then collected them in the afternoon. I would then spend time with them, cook tea and we’d have time together before they went to bed. They did have a very early bedtime however! Once they were asleep I would work for several hours.

6. How did running a business from home enable you to better juggle the responsibilities of being a mum and the demands of work?

When we outgrew the tiny office we then bought a house that was big enough for the family and the business. Working from home had some great benefits – if the kids were ill we were already home etc but it also made it very hard to switch off. I would work all day, every day and then go back in the evening after supper. There wasn’t much worklife balance but the benefit was that the kids saw just how much effort went into building the business. They have really learned from that and all seem to be focused about achieving their own personal goals.

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7. As the saying goes: ‘Nothing worth having comes easy’. What sacrifices have you had to make in order to grow such a successful business? And how do you feel about these now, looking back?

I sacrificed a social life for many years and that did get quite lonely. I’m now enjoying being able to step away slightly, follow my own interests and meet new friends. Money was always tight too as we constantly reinvested in the business but you reap what you sow and that pressure has now eased.

8. Your kids are all grown up now. What do they think about what you do and what valuable lessons have they learnt from your work/work ethic?

I think the kids have learned a great deal from seeing me run the business. They all have a good work ethic but probably, the most important lesson is seeing me pick myself up after something has gone wrong. It’s shown them that making mistakes or something failing shouldn’t be seen as a disaster but as a learning opportunity. That has given them a level of confidence that it took me half a lifetime to develop.

9. Why do you think so many women lose themselves a little bit when they become a mum? What’s your advice to them?

I used to deeply resent being referred to as ‘the triplets’ mother’! We do get defined by our kids and it is easy to lose your identity. One tip I used was to write down key skills and career achievements from my pre-baby days. It was a useful reminder some days and became something I enjoyed adding new things to as the business grew.

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10. Describe your life now. Talk us through a typical day…

This year my life has changed dramatically as I’ve started two new businesses. The first is a self-publishing division of Accent Press called Octavo Book Publishing & Marketing Services. The other is Octavo, a book shop, café and wine bar in a beautiful old Georgian pub in Cardiff Bay. The area is home to upmarket residents and office workers and it’s a real creative hub. There was a real gap in the market for a book café so I seized the opportunity. Octavo is a wonderful place to promote and sell Accent authors and also, through running writing workshops and book groups, a place to attract new customers to our Octavo publishing services.

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My day involves overseeing all three companies but I will usually start my day at the café. It’s a great place for meetings and we also have a lot of events there. I love checking the book sales and ordering in new titles and stock for the shop. Then I’ll head up to our main offices where I employ twenty staff. These include managers, editors, designers and sales and marketing. We’ll have meeting about new titles, cover designs etc and I’ll also be working on other aspects of the business. I then usually go back to the café for the last hour or two before it shuts at 7pm.

Octavo founder Hazel Cushion with prize hamper after winning Bookshop of the MonthHazel with a prize hamper after Octavo won Bookshop of the Month

11. What passion projects are you currently working on?

There’s the possibility of a TV series using a similar format to The Great British Bake Off but for writers. The ultimate prize will be a publishing deal – I’m hoping that comes off as I think it would really appeal to both readers and writers.

12. What is it you are looking for when a manuscript lands on your desk?

The key is that it must hook the reader in very quickly. I have the attention span of a tea bag so am a great test for this. If I don’t read beyond page three then I’m afraid it’s rejected.

13. What have been your biggest highlights in the last year or two?

I think growing the company so I now have a structured management team. I have been able to step away slightly and let them move the company forward. For so many years I was the one trying to make it all happen that it is great to see how they work together, their commitment and pride in the business. Not only have my kids grown up but my business has too!

Business Awards - Hazel centreAfter winning Best Small Business at the Merthyr Tydfil Business Awards, Wales, UK (Hazel in centre)

14. What’s your ultimate dream?

I love helping other women and would like to develop a business network to empower entrepreneurs. I like talking about my journey and the fact that you can run a business without MBA’s or formal training. In fact, I’m the proud owner of an ungraded Maths O’level and I am dyslexic – these are things that have helped me learn to overcome challenges and I’d like to help others to do that too.

15. What advice would you give mums who want to do what they love but aren’t sure what that means to them in their life, or how to go about it?

Just do it. This isn’t a practice run at life and you never get that hour, day or week back. Do your research, asks lots of questions, write a business plan but ultimately – just do it!

For more information about Hazel visit the Accent Press websiteYou can also check out ‘How to Be a Million Pound Mum’ Hazel’s inspirational business audiobook series aimed at mothers who dream of running their own business HERE.

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How to make it in the world of… food

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Ever dream of bottling and selling your grandma’s legendary hot and spicy sauce or mass-producing your own Mexican burritos? Well food is big business and one man who has first-hand experience of turning his passion for food into a career is Patrick Drake, Co-Founder and Head Chef of HelloFresh, the UK’s largest recipe box delivery service.

Patrick’s greatest passions are food, teaching and helping people get the most out of life which is why he also presents on Discovery, National Geographic and Fox TV and has created the world’s fastest cooking course www.the60secondchef.com.

Having carved out a colourful culinary career that allows him to do all the things he loves on a daily basis we asked hime to dish up the secrets of his success…

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The Simple Trick To Productivity? Do One Thing At Once

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This is a guest post by one of the UK’s leading experts in digital distraction and digital detox, Frances Booth, author of The Distraction Trap: How to Focus in a Digital World, A Writer For All Seasons, and more productivity tips. Find out more about her here.

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Here’s a work scenario most of us are familiar with …

You’ve just settled down to the task you’re doing, when someone interrupts you and asks you to do something else instead.

So, you switch tasks and put aside whatever it was you were doing.

But how much has switching your attention in this way just cost you in terms of lost productivity?

Research shows that switch-tasking – where we switch from one task to another – is extremely bad for productivity.

Yet many of us switch-task for large parts of every day. (We often think of this as multitasking, though what happens is we’re actually switching rapidly between tasks.)

It’s not just other people who interrupt us. We also interrupt ourselves. We get distracted, or we let a new demand – that comes in via email, for example – to throw us off course.

‘Multitasking’ has become a way of life for many of us. Yet it’s sapping our productivity.

We toggle all day between emails and a piece of work we’re doing. Or we check our smartphone all the time, switching task frequently to read and reply to messages.

We like to think we can do two things at once.

We do this to such an extent that media multitasking has become the norm.

Often, we multitask because it feels like we’re being more productive. But this is not the case.

Evidence shows that multitasking saps productivity and can leave us exhausted.

When we switch from one task to another, we use “goal shifting” to decide to do one thing instead of another, and we use “role activation” to change the rules for the previous task to the rules of the new task, researchers have found.

Both of these processes cost us time.

While there might be relatively small switch costs for just one switch of task, if we start to switch repeatedly back and forth, the costs add up.

In fact, the costs are huge. Switching between tasks can cost you as much as 40% of your productive time, according to expert David Meyer.

So if we ‘multitask’ or rather switch-task as our standard mode of working we’re missing a very important productivity trick.

If you want to become instantly more productive, do one thing at once.

It sounds simpler than it is. To do this, we need to develop our skills of mental focus, learn strategies to avoid distraction, and find ways to cut down on interruptions by other people.

However, for the productivity boost it gives us, it’s worth a bit of work to achieve.

So rather than spending the day multitasking, try boosting your productivity by doing one thing at a time.

Positive Thinking = Positive Life

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This post is written by our Senior Editor, Rachel Kempton.

“All that we are is a result of what we have thought.” ~ Buddha

Did you know that if you want to live a longer life, and be healthier, happier, and more successful, all you have to do is THINK POSITIVE!

More and more people are turning to positive thinking because it is a powerful tool for transforming your inner self and your external life and circumstances.

In fact a study by Stanford Research Institute, found that success is 88 percent positive thinking and only 12 percent education, which suggests that optimistic people use the power of their mind – and positive thinking – to turn their dreams into reality.

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Do What You Love interview Rebecca Campbell

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We’re so excited to bring you this interview with the lovely Rebecca Campbell: best selling author; inspirational motivational speaker; spiritual teacher and mentor and intuitive guide.

Rebecca believes that we all have the power to be bright lights in the world: all we need to do is come home to ourselves and show up to who we truly are. She calls it Working Your Light.

Through her powerful meditations, talks, workshops and bestselling books, Light Is The New Black and Rise Sister Rise, Rebecca has guided thousands all over the world to listen to and courageously answer the unique callings of their soul and create a life that is completely aligned to them.

Rebecca’s words really get you thinking your own life and how you are working your light in the world. Enjoy the interview. ~ Rachel

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Rethink your Wednesday and beat the mid-week blues

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This post is written by our Senior Editor, Rachel Kempton…

Mid-week Slump, Wednesday Wall, Hump Day – whatever you want to call it – if you’re feeling tired, fed up, or burnt out after a busy start to the week, a little motivation boost could be just what you need to lift your mid-week blues.

Here’s our 5-step guide to powering through Wednesday and turning your week around…

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1. Rise (earlier) and shine!

“Early to bed and early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise.” ~ Benjamin Franklin

Snoozing under the duvet may seem way more appealing than getting up early but studies show that the most productive and successful people wake up early to experience the peaceful precious moments before sunrise. This extra time, when the world is all quiet and still, allows you to focus on yourself, prepare for the day ahead and get a jumpstart.

How? Go to bed an hour earlier and set your alarm an hour earlier then see what you can do.

Top tip! If you’d love to change your life, reduce stress, lose weight and take positive steps towards fulfilling your dreams read The Miracle Morning: The 6 Habits That Will Transform Your Life Before 8am by Hal Elrod. 

2. Frontload Your Day

“We think, mistakenly, that success is the result of the amount of time we put in at work, instead of the quality of time we put in.” ~ Arianna Huffington

How awesome is it when you have a super-productive morning completing your biggest, most challenging tasks? Heading into the afternoon knowing that the tasks that have been worrying you, that you’ve been putting off, or that have been eating into your time are done and dusted feels great.

How? Energy levels are generally higher in the morning than they are come mid-afternoon so re-structure the way you schedule your Wednesdays. Instead of pushing out your meetings, calls, or projects until after lunch, put the more consuming tasks first.

Top tip! For more hints and tips on getting more done faster, and getting the right things done read Eat That Frog! By Brian Tracy.

3. Plan a lovely lunch

“When I eat with my friends, it is a moment of real pleasure, when I really enjoy my life.” ~ Monica Bellucci

So remember that really good feeling of getting everything done before noon? Well now, you get to reward yourself a bit more… with a delicious lunch date.

How?: Round up a few co-workers or friends and head out to for a quick bite to eat. Walk, talk and share some laughs along the way. Getting away from it all will help you disconnect and refocus your mind.

Top tip! Having lunch out doesn’t have to be expensive. You could always prepare lunch at home and head to the nearest green space for a picnic.

4. Give your brain a break

“True enjoyment comes from activity of the mind and exercise of the body; the two are ever united.” ~ Wilhelm von Humboldt

Did you know that a large percentage of our struggles are mental? That means, quite simply, that we also have the power to overcome them, and one of the best ways to do this is through exercise. Whether it’s a mile-long jog to kick-start your day or a yoga class to unwind at the end of the day, doing a bit of exercise is guaranteed to re-energise your body and mind and help you push through the rest of the week.

How? There are lots of ways to incorporate more activity into your day:

  1. Ask yourself what you enjoy doing and schedule a time to do it.
  2. Just like Steve Jobs who made a habit of walking meetings, perform simple exercises throughout the day to prevent you from feeling tired and lethargic.

Top tip! Need more reasons to get going? Check out these 4 Science-Backed Ways to Motivate Yourself to Work Out.

5. Create a new happy habit

“When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.” ~ John Lennon

Wednesday is the perfect day to spend at least one hour doing what you love to do. Instead of focusing on just “getting through” the day and counting down to the weekend, start doing something that makes you feel great.

How? Ask yourself: What makes me truly happy? How could I incorporate more of this into my Wednesday? Add it to your diary and follow through with it.

Top tip! Whether you’re looking to create more time and space in your life to do what you love, or you’re ready to make a new start and find personal, professional and financial freedom the Do What You Love e-course is perfect for you. Our course runs for 5 weeks from October 17, 2016, and you can book your place here or click on the image below:

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Is the mid-week slump something that you struggle with? How do you power through to the weekend? We’d love to know! And if you never have that Wednesday feeling because you’re doing what you love, we’d love to hear from you too…

Why conscious living is key to doing what you love

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This post is written by our Senior Editor, Rachel Kempton.

“A life lived of choice is a life of conscious action. A life lived of chance is a life of unconscious creation.” ~ Neale Donald Walsch

Do you ever feel that you’re drifting through life, not knowing how you ended up here, or where you’re going? Do you feel lost and confused? Or are you questioning who you are and what you actually want?

Perhaps you’re coasting aimlessly or  you’re stuck in a rut: frustrated by the job you hate; lonely in the loveless marriage that keeps you trapped; afraid to act on the big dream you’ve had since you were a child; or desperate to find time to develop the skills and talents that you know could change your life. Whatever is preventing you from living a life you love now is the time to wake up, smell the coffee and work on changing it, or changing the way you feel about it. How? Through conscious living.

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